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Thursday, September 8, 2011

3 YEARS STOCK TAKE

I cannot believe it has been 3 years already, and I have to take stock of myself . Have I changed? What have I learned and what have I achieved.
Have I changed ?
I hope so, but not in a bad way.... I just think that new experience changes one's perceptions. I hope I have changed in a good way and in a positive way. I hope I have achieved some leniency towards others and other way of living and thinking. I know I have become more appreciative of friends and family far away, that I miss dearly. I cherish time spent with them.
I have changed into a "Marina Mary".... Every thing is delivered and you are served hand and foot in the shops. So yes I have become spoiled.... ( And I love it) Really like in the movies....
What have I learned ?
This list is endless......
I have learned to: Live in a high rise apartment, go every where by taxi (no own car) drive on the opposite side of the road, do my own housework (totally darlings), buy groceries and household products with strange names, live in a world city, live the expat life, respect other religions, respect other customs, few Arabic words, read real books (magazines are too expensive), not every one you meet becomes your friend (some fall of the bus....) I can survive anywhere and anything.etc etc etc
What have I achieved ?
My achievements have all been personal.  They have been positive and negative..... and not in a " certificate on the wall type"
I have traveled a little more, and seen very interesting places.
All in all it has been good and I look forward to the coming years in Dubai. We will not be leaving any time soon.
So my stock take after 3 years is THIS IS GOOD....BRING ON THE NEXT 5 YEARS.
We have decided to stay for another 5 years, and then make the next change or challenge. (But we all know plans sometimes change....so we just have to wait and see and take each day as it comes)

In the time I have not written I have been travelling and here are just some of the fantastic places I have been and seen. Remember this is MY DIARY after all....

SRI LANKA
What a fantastic country to visit. I was there for 3 weeks and spent most of my time in the south on the beach (OK where else....) I still believe that any one looks great with a tan... Sri Lanka is not very big BUT getting around is a mission. The roads are very narrow and way too many vehicles on the road ( not forgetting the sacred cows every where too). The traffic is a nightmare and it takes ages for very short distances. They also drive like lunatics... Hooters are a must. They are used for every action while driving. Speed limit is 50km/hour.
Most Sri Lankan people are very poor , but always smile and seem happy. They are all well fed as they tend to eat from the sea (if living on the coast) or inland they are mostly vegetarian and grow their own veggies in their back garden. They all live in houses. TV antennae is seen everywhere...
Their food is very very spicy, and the Sri Lanka is known for the hottest curry.
The Tsunami was about 10 years ago and damage can still be seen in some places. I met baja drivers (similar to a tuk tuk) who had lost their entire family in the Tsunami. They are all very religious, and seem to accept tragedy like the tsunami as "Gods will" .
In one temple there was a Buddha which was taken by the Tsunami in Thailand and ended in Sri Lanka.

MANGROVE GARDEN BEACH CABANA.
This was my cabana...It was fantastic.  It is an Eco resort so everything is natural. Right on the beach. It is also very cheap. The bathroom is in the "basement" of the room. Lift a door in the floor to go to the bath room. No hot water....never needed as it is tropical and very hot. I love it. The beach was white, long, deserted and full of bird life AND COWS..... Very funny to see a cow, no sorry plenty of cows, strolling on the beach.
MY CADILLAC
I rented this scooter as everybody has one and I thought it will be easy and good to get around in. If ever I had a bad idea, this was one of them...... Only problem was... I had never ever handled one before..... I fell off twice (separate days) and on loose sand, BUT my third time was not lucky... I came off hard in the road......had some roasties on the knees and elbow and NEVER got on it again..... I also think I do not look good with a helmet....
It was fun while it lasted, but never again. I will go the "driving miss daisy" way.

MAX AND OLIVIA
I met max and Olivia at the hotel where we were staying. They were on honeymoon and we just clicked and after minutes seemed as if we had known each other for years. We had many nights, no every night, of conversations and laughs....(and Arak...local drink which tastes very very bad) That is what makes traveling so great. You get to meet new friends and people who enrich your life.

NEW YEAR RITUAL
I found this very interesting. I cannot remember the name, but every new year, they have a ritual where the parents or employers give new clothes to kids or employees, and a certain leaf is given ( as in the picture) to show that your "slate is wiped clean" and all the bad of the old year is forgiven and you start a fresh. Their are no feuds lasting longer than a year......Sound good to me.
On the left is Prasad , hotel manager (employee), and on the right is the hotel owner(employer). Special foods are also eaten and it is very festive and lots of family time. It also is a 3 day public holiday.

TANGALLE BEACH
The beaches are beautiful with powder white sand and palm trees. These were the hotel loungers on the beach. I think this was a sunset foto on a very cloudy day. If you walk a little further on this beach you get to a beach where the turtles come to lay eggs at night. I did not do the walking....I took a baja... Saw one turtle and had Japanese tourist in the group who grabbed their camera's...flashes going off as if it was a celebrity arriving, and the turtle hurried back to sea.....

PANSY SHELLS
On one beach in Tangalle yo can pick up these pansy shells every day. In one afternoon walk (no more than 20 minutes) I had picked up about 9. They are very delicate but beautiful.

LOCAL STORE

This is a local restaurant. It is family run and dad Mom and kids  are in the store . It serves  coldrink, some household items and food (I did not venture into eating here.

STREET VENDORS
These stalls are all over Sri lanka. The fruit is fantastic and varied and all local.



TEMPLE IN GALLE
Temples are all over but this one is in the sea. You reach it via a suspended foot bridge.

TYPICAL STREET SCENE IN TANGALLE
aLL OF THE TOWNS LOOK LIKE THIS. In the foreground of this picture is my scooter......foto must have been taken very early in the holiday as I was still riding that THING. The street are narrow, crowded and full . 

BEACH MARKET
This must be the nicest place to work. On the beach.... The pots in this picture are all made by hand and are used by all the locals daily. Either for water or milk or what ever.

TYPICAL HOUSE.
This house is typical of all the houses, but it was a little more upmarket as it is tiled from the ground up. It also has fancy awning work on roof trusses. gardening with lawns is not big in Sri lanka

SNORKEL BEACH
I organised a local fisherman to take me with his boat to this beach to snorkel. I did not want to go with a tour operator, and this was magic. The fisherman fetched me from our beach after his early morning fishing and we motored to this beach. The snorkeling was not great, but the experience with all the locals in the water too was fantastic.

MY ENTOURAGE...
EVERY ONE WHO HAS TRAVELED WITH ME KNOWS THAT i DO NOT TRAVEL LIGHT........Here are 2 Baja's which I used. The blue one had all my luggage and I had to take another one for myself..... Now you have to realize that in the luggage was a water floating device (Lilo) which took forever to blow up , and I was not going to do it again.... I just love myself when I do these slightly crazy things...Don't you?

YOUNG GIRL IN TEMPLE
This little girl was sitting with her mother at prayers. She was so sweet and did all the rituals mimicking her mother. She was dressed as if she was going to a party. The locals also love having their foto's taken.

HOTEL LOUNGE/DINING ROOM AREA
This is where we hang out most of the day and night if not on the beach or shopping. The hammock was a favourite of Hannes and the table was where we all had coffee and cocktails or read books.... All the furniture is made from the local trees and is beautiful.

MY BANGLE
Hannes spoiled me, and he had this bangle made for me in Galle. It is all semi precious stones and the silver is hand carved. The jeweler delivered this bangle specially to me on the day our flight left Sri lanka. He had to do a 6 hour journey to get it to me. I was really impressed. I love the bangle as it goes with anything I wear.

WINE COOLER.
The wine at a hotel one evening was served in this as a wine cooler. I just thought it was ingenious... It is a plastic jug with ice, but it has been jazzed up with a napkin for style....

LIQUOR STORE
Alcohol consumption amongst the locals is a huge problem. They tend to drink way too much. All the liquor store look like this. The serving counter is behind a steel mesh. You see what you like and ask for it. After you have paid it is slid to you below the steel mesh. Note the stalls for queuing

BEACH DINNER
On our last night the staff surprised us with a beach dinner. They carried the table and chair onto the beach. Lit torches and served us dinner. Very special. After dinner they all joined us and had a Sri Lanka sing along. All their traditional songs and clapping and whistling. It was just great. The staff were all young and there is very little in the hotel. We knew them all my name. It felt like visiting family.

THE WHOLE HAPPY BUNCH TOGETHER AT BEACH DINNER

THE FOUR MUSKETEERS.
Hannes, Barbs, Ettiene and myself did the Sri lanka together. Waterfall are all over.

ELEPHANT ORPHANAGE
They have an elephant orphanage where the elephants are cared for. Here the Ellie's are taken to the river by the mahouts for their daily bath and romp In the water. This one Ellie stopped at every shop and checked out the merchandise.....

I will go back to Sri lanka. I is a wonderful country.

THE NEXT EIGHT WEEKS I SPENT IN  SOUTH AFRICA....  IT WILL ALL BE IN THE NEXT BLOG ENTRY.   ...



Sunday, January 23, 2011

TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE

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 Do not worry please leave your comments but you will not see them apear immeadiately. I received so many spam comments from a Viagra site ???????? that I  set the blog to first e-mail me the comments and for a  OK and are only  then published on the site......

I started sorting my photo's on my laptop and this just has to be seen and told.......
We all know that time has gone by BUT we are all locked into a time of our own...I still feel about 32....Might not look it and might not read as well as then (have developed longer arms!!!!) but my attitude is still 32 with lots of experience...So all in all I am better than then...or am I. Was I not more fearless then or have I become more fearless? Was I friendly and accommodating then or have I become more accommodating now?
Have I really bettered like old wine as they say....
 OK don't freak out now. I am NOT putting up MY "then" and "now" photo's (that's why I have kids.......)

DIAN    -THEN

DIAN   - NOW
 Dian is my youngest and  was always very happy to play by himself. I think the elder 2 bro's made his life a little difficult at times....He has grown up so well and is a real pleasure with his very "quirky" sense of humor. He introduced us to Maria, his very special friend from Sweden, and she is just a honey. She came to Dubai before Christmas for 10 days to visit. She is very happy and always cheerful. I hold thumbs her plans for 2011 work out well.
I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH MY BOY
JC  - THEN

JC  - NOW
 JC is my eldest and was a very "chubby" baby. Being the first we got to do all sorts of fun things on our own. He has alway been very "active". He has joined us in Dubai and will start a new future for himself here. Will keep you posted on his progress.
 I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH JC
ROSSI -  THEN

ROSSI   - NOW
 Rossous is the middle son and is the "big" boy. He is also with us is Dubai and is working hard at his future. He is a very happy chappy and easy going BUT do not rub him up the wrong way......
 I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH ROSSI.

Looking at the photo's I have is so much fun and maybe I will have the guts to do "THEN and "NOW" foto's of us too.
Dian has left back to University. The house is strange without him. I am just so pleased that he is so happy and well adjusted. It seems my job there was well done and I gave him wings to fly.
JC and Rossi back in the household is not that easy. They have to adjust to being back with the "ballies" and our house rules. After them being out by themselves for a while it is not easy for them to adjust. Rossi has had 16 months so he is well adjusted into the run of things, but JC now has to learn to live in the house again.

I had a wonderful day at the spa as a gift from Hannes. It was at Cleopatra spa at Wafi. It was fabulous. It was the Balinese royal treatment. Clydene I had a rose petal bath too........ It was a Balinese massage, then a scrub and a long soak in a rose petal bath with frangipani oils......Absolute bliss.Thanks Hannes I loved it very much. I really enjoy spa's and treatments.
I have got some good news as well. Gesi and Clydene are coming to visit. Clydene unfortunately lost her step father and has gone to the funeral in the UK. Emirates was the best priced airline so she is stopping over on her way back. Gesi will join us in Dubai and at least 3 of the bali Bithes will have a time together. The weather is starting to heat up a little so I think they must pack their cozzies as it will be beach time for us.
I have somne things planned for the girls visit and I am very excited to see them.

Barbara will be here in April and we are planning to go to Sri Lanka. It is dirt sheap to fly from here and the accomodation is very cheap as well. It will be interesting to see Sri Lanka as so many people from Sri Lanka work in Dubai.
I went to see a dentist here the other day. (That is where I started thinking about the "time" thing.) Well in my lifetime I apparently have given my teeth hell. According to him they are all worn out and buggered. I need "allingnment" and more.....When I left  first checked if i maybe had not gone to a car service station.....but no I was really at the dentist. After I heard the quote for my teeth I nearly needed another doctor for my hart attack............So I will just carry on with my UN alligned teeth as they are working just fine.

I have very special friends in Dubai, Wendy and Ina. We will be friends for ever and not just as expats as I in a previous blog said about friendships as an expat. We have the same family values abd in the expat area we can relate to each others longings. I am also excited to introduce Gesi and Clydene to them.

Rossouw had a friend, Kathryn, visit and she is returning to SA in the morning. She slotted into the family very well and I hope she had a good time.
I baked milktart yesterday and the family loved it.
My turtles are driving me nuts........They now get Swarofski on their shells when I clean there tank...Very lani. BUT they eat so much I have to buy new "accommodation" for them every 3 months. They were so small when I got them Not even the size of ping pong ball.....now they are 2 tennis-balls big.....Eish....

I am just rambling now......
Chat later
L

Monday, January 17, 2011

BRING ON 2011

MY "BABY" TURNS 21
Dian had his 21st birthday here with us in Dubai.....This was his choice of gift LOL....It is remote controlled, BUT he went back the next day for a refund as it was very slow......
We went to Buddha Bar for dinner and that is a serious WOW......The food is fantastic and the service is outstanding. Happy birthday my boy and I hope all the love and happiness for you in life.


ROSSOUW 22ND BIRTHDAY

Rossouw had his 22nd birthday and here he is all decked out in his new shirt......Hannes and the boys went to Frankies for dinner and had a blast. Happy birthday Rossi. All love and happiness to you in all the new wonderful things happening in 2011

CAMPING IN MUSANDAM
We have realized we are not "happy campers"..... I think we need some advise and assistance in this matter. We had a gale force wind the night which kept the tent billowing and moving.....Hannes stept into the fire when we took the tent down, which resulted in a nasty burned foot. We really tried our best to stay upbeat and happy but oh boy you can only put on a brave and happy face for so long....

CLOUDY SUNSET
I added this photo as it is not very often you see clouds on the horizon. Average raibfall is 4 days per year

SPECIAL
I just find this so very special to see camels on the beach. I do not think I will ever get used to it.

OK it has been a very very long while from my last update. I have no excuse. It is just not easy to always write what I feel and think....I do not want to disturb any of you reading...So I kept a little to myself....I hope to change it in 2011 and I still feel the blog in very therapeutic for me to try and organize my shambled mind and feelings. Also to keep all of you updated on what we are doing so that it is never difficult to pick up the pieces when we do see each other again. 

I think it is called writers block...WOW I have a diagnosis.............This will be a very general  news entry to catch up and try to get onto the writing thing again.

Christmas was very nice, and we had a wonderful lunch at Movenpick in JBR. We got all our friends together who were in Dubai and minus family anbd we made our own family Christmas. Food was over the top and way too much. Speaking of food....I have gone into a chocolate frenzy........(Is it a real food group I have to wonder).Will also try and fix that as none of my clothes fit any more.

Dian was home for holidays and it was fantastic to have him here again. He did very well at varsity last year and we are very proud. He returns to SA tomorrow and he is really looking forward to going and getting stuck into his new year.
Rossouw is still happy and coaching swimming in Dubai. He might have a new and exciting 2011. Will update on that  soon .
JC has joined us in Dubai and he will have tough and exciting things happening as well.

Hannes is well and he also might have some exciting news in the near future....Seems as if 2011 will be full of new, exciting and tough stuff.
I struggle with only one thing and that is the longing to people. My family and friends not here with me are a constant ache in my hart. I have found strength in my character which I did not know existed. I am very adjustable...holy cow It sounds wrong to say adjustable....What will be a better description..... I have done the ex pat thing and have found it to be " not for sissies" but also very easy if yo have your mindset in order.
I really love Dubai with all its diversity and new and exciting stuff happening. It is so nice to see all the wealth that you are surrounded in. You have to keep a strong guard as not to feel you are just as wealthy. The service in the shops is so good and friendly. It is a "delivery" city. Yes  I have succumbed to the delivery mode. Imagine going to do grocery shopping.....hauling it form the car to the lift at the apartment.....Hauling it all into the lift......going to the 23rd floor (this is easy) then hauling it all out the lift and then into the apartment and then only start packing away......Nee wat.....Not this MARINA MARY.....I now phone my local supermarket with my list and they deliver it into my kitchen...easy peasy.... Any take away or restaurant delivers to your door.
Taxi's are my other pleasure. I have a "driver" who does the traffic number and stresses and I can sit back and look at what ever I fancy. If I want to the driver and I have a fat chat......All I have to do is ask him where he is from and what does his family consist of...the rest he does then all by himself. I then get to learn of another country and how they think and do things. The taxi drivers are very lonely as they cannot have their family with them in Dubai. They all have wives and kids at home and get to see them once a year on their annual leave...It makes me realize how fortunate I am to have my family (partly) here.

My mother turns 86 today., I wish I could have been there just to say happy birthday in person. Well a phone call will have to do.
I have gone a blank now and mind is empty....
Chat later again
L